“In 1770, a British law was proposed to Parliament granting grounds for annulment if a bride used cosmetics prior to her wedding day. —Marjorie Dorfman, “The HISTORY of Make-up”. Fast forward to 2015 and findings from a report published on the UK’s second biggest-selling daily newspaper “Daily Mail” states that ” a fifth of girls in the UK as young as 12 are afraid to leave home without wearing a full face of make-up and over half of under-14s wear cosmetics every day”. I conducted a mini research on BBM where I asked about fifty ladies (over 18) to either send me a makeup less picture of themselves or put a makeup less picture of themselves on their DP. The responses I got included “Okay, I will”, “I don’t take pictures without makeup done”, “I don’t think I have pictures without makeup but let me search”, “I prefer looking sophisticated”, “I am confident to send it to you but not confident enough for the world to see me without makeup so please do not share”. I attended a wedding the other day and I could have sworn that I didn’t know the young lady getting married with all the floors, layers, foundations and roofings of makeup she had on (as a matter of fact, any woman that chooses to marry me will have to choose between having light makeup done on our wedding day or marrying herself – no joke).
Do I have something against makeup and cosmetics in general? Not really. There is no question that women look better with their hair and makeup done than without it. Anyone that tells you that you look better without makeup done is either lying, drunk or you aren’t doing your makeup correctly. Makeup is designed to make you look better; saying that it doesn’t is like saying that a fresh coat of paint on a house doesn’t make the house look better: it is only true when someone screws up the paint job by using the wrong colors or applying the right ones incorrectly.
So what’s my (and most men’s) problem with makeup:
1. Making use of the fresh coat of painting illustration mentioned above, let use compare two types of buildings to buttress my first point; the first building is newly painted but the interior decors are an eye sore while the second building hasn’t been painted in ages but the interior decor was lavishly conceptualized and implemented. My first issue with makeup is the fact that women spend so much time improving their looks and barely no time improving on themselves. An average Nigerian lady works/schools from Monday to Friday having just the weekend to herself. She then spends almost the full Saturday making her hair for the upcoming week and Sunday service the next day. On Sunday, she spends another an hour plus putting things in order for church, gets back maybe cooks, eats, sleeps, watches TV, visits friends and goes to work/school the next day as the cycle continues. If only women spent more time improving themselves mentally than they do physically, they won’t depend on men as much.
“Beauty, to me, is about being comfortable in YOUR own skin….”
― Gwyneth Paltrow
2. It is a misconception that men prefer their women without makeup, real men simply love a woman who is confident in her own skin. Confidence is a character trait that both sexes find incredibly attractive in the other (even if women value it more) because confidence is rooted in a healthy self-perception and acknowledgement of one’s own self-worth – which all diligent and contentious people have. The attractiveness of your confidence is much more important than whatever advantage you sacrifice by occasionally being seen without makeup. A man loves a woman that doesn’t have to be fully made-up to feel confident of herself. A woman that can step out on a Saturday with her man to exercise without a single makeup on and still feel and look confident. A woman that sees makeup as a convenience and not a necessity.
“Earlier, watching her apply mascara with ritual concentration, he’d wondered just how beautiful a woman had to be before she believed it.”
― Alison Fell, The Element -inth in Greek
3. Real men dislike women whose life is dictated by her appearance. The negative effect of being unwilling to do activities that would require you to not wear makeup (swimming, exercising etc) by far outweighs the advantage you gain by always being seen at your best.
“Consider the fact that maybe…just maybe…beauty and worth aren’t FOUND in a makeup bottle, or a salon-fresh hairstyle, or a fabulous outfit. Maybe our sparkle comes from somewhere deeper inside, somewhere so pure and authentic and REAL, it doesn’t need gloss or polish or glitter to shine.” ― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
4. There is something intimate about seeing a girl without makeup. When I see my girlfriend without their hair and makeup done, I’ve had two thoughts: (a) she is less attractive, but (b) it is nice that I get to see this side of her. It is an expression of intimacy – and her confidence – that she can be herself in my presence, and this is worth something. This is no excuse for always looking unkempt when with your spouse, but as Nigerian men would say “if a woman is willing to let you see her without makeup, she is willing to let you into her heart”.
“Beauty is about perception, not about make-up. I think the beginning of all beauty is knowing and liking oneself. You can’t put on make-up, or dress yourself, or do you hair with any sort of fun or joy if you’re doing it from a position of CORRECTION.”― Kevyn Aucoin
5. A final point is worth noting: a genuinely feminine woman loves looking her best. She takes great pleasure in adorning herself and amplifying her internal beauty via her external beauty. You don’t need to be a supermodel to enjoy this; you simply need to know that you are looking your current best. The more you allow yourself to enjoy looking beautiful, the less you will resent the “need” to do so, and the more comfortable you will feel when you don’t.
“The truth doesn’t tolerate makeup”
― Oliver Mally
Reference: “What Men Think of You Without Makeup” on http://www.therulesrevisited.com