The problem we have in the road to success is the fact that we take NO too personal. Some of us fold up, pack our luggage and retire to mediocrity. A few others, take NO as a compliment, go home, restrategize and the next day they set out again because they have realized that NO doesn’t means NO, it means Not Over.
I remember the story of a young man that was applying to a particular company and was regularly informed that there was no vacancy in the company. He kept applying every single day and they kept telling him there was no vacancy but he kept saying “its a new day, maybe someone has died or resigned”. He kept repeating the same routine until an employee in the company died and he found out. This time around, he attended the person’s burial ceremony, took pictures and attached the pictures to his application letter and said “Dear Sir, I have been applying to your company but you kept telling me that there was no vacancy, but on 20th of March one of your employees died and was buried on the 22nd of April. I have attached pictures as proof and I’m sure there is a vacancy that needs to be filled. I am applying for the dead man’s position and attached is my CV.” The story teller didn’t tell us if he got the job but his hunger and not taking no for an answer is highly commendable.
Bo Benneth said “a rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” Do we see rejection as a stepping stone to the actualization of our dreams or a stumbling block. We are too afraid of rejection that we rather do nothing than do something that might end up rejected.
I would never forget my Secondary school days, I’ll say SS2 or so. I liked this girl in school, but I was afraid of telling her how I felt. I was of the opinion that she would say no and the little pride I was preserving would be shattered. This fear kept me from professing my affection for her. I watched in despair as she dated some other guy in school. Some years after school when she had traveled to the states to continue her education. We were conversing on Facebook when I told her and to my amazement she was like “I was so into you then but was waiting for you to say something”. I never felt so stupid in my life, and I asked myself “so why didn’t you just go, take a no (if she was going to say no) and move on rather than die in silence.
V.I Lenin said “the only one who doesn’t make mistakes is the one who doesn’t do anything” and Elbert Hubbard added that “to avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” There is something you have in mind to achieve but the fear of rejection has stopped you. There is a girl you like but the fear of rejection has kept you from approaching her. There is a business venture you have envisioned but the fear of failure has kept you from giving it a try.
I don’t know what you have in mind, but I’m here to tell you that rejection doesn’t mean you are not good enough, it simply means the other person failed to realize what you have to offer. Offer someone else or repackage and offer it to that same person.
“We will not allow rejection to beat us down. It will only strengthen our resolve. To be successful there is no other way.” Earl G. Graves. According to Louis Ferdinand Céline “all great innovations are built on rejections.”
Let’s give ourselves an assignment, yes an assignment. Take a book of 6 pages. On each page write the day of the week with the date. For example, Page 1 will be Monday (7/04/14), Page 2 will be Tuesday (8/04/14) and so on.
For each day, make sure you get 10 NO’s a day which means do something or attempt something that will make someone tell you no. It might be calling that company you want to work in, it might be asking a girl out, it might be asking for startup capital from someone. Make sure every single day, you get 10 rejections (NO’s). Write it down on each day’s page.
The purpose of this exercise is to get immmune to rejection. Every no you get will make the next no easier to take. After this exercise you will realize that that thing you thought was a no was actually a yes.
“Practice, practice, practice until you eventually get numb on rejections.” Brian Klemmer
Dottie Walters said “Failure? I never encountered it. All I ever met were temporary setbacks.” Failing is not trying! Go out there and get some NO’s.
Read: Failure Is An Asset