I was invited by a friend to her colleague’s wedding ceremony. I was at the reception when I saw one Mr. Saint Obi (former Nollywood actor). I have always wanted to meet Saint Obi and this was my opportunity. When I meet famous people, I always want to make a good impression so I don’t go with the usual “hi, I am your biggest fan bla bla bla”. I thought to myself, how do I meet this man that will make him remember me. I remembered once hearing that Saint Obi was his stage name not his real name so I googled him up and found out that his real name is actually Obinna Nwafor. With this information, I walked up to him and was like “Mr. Obinna Nwafor, Good Evening Sir”. I could see from his face that he looked shocked and I guess he was thinking “how did this young man know my real name?”. We spoke for about 5 minutes or so, took pictures and I left him to enjoy the wedding with his date.
As a student, my school organized a lecture where the CEO of a big company was invited to give a talk. After the lecture I saw a former lecturer of mine, a white lady who had lectured me on a course earlier in the year. It was almost 6 months since the course finished so I could have forgiven her if she didn’t remember my name. I walked up to her, called her by her name and greeted her. What followed was shocking and flattering at the same time, she called me by my full name including my surname. I was shocked and asked her “but ma’am I didn’t realize you knew my name talk less of remembering it” and she replied “who wouldn’t remember the name of a smart student like you”. I wouldn’t lie to you, the fact that she remembered my name meant more to me than even if Beyonce or Rihanna though I was cute.
Have you ever figured out why men with female children will do anything to get a male child? Its simple. They want someone to carry their name even after they have passed on. Remember when a lady gets married, she changes her surname to the surname of the man she is married to.
People are so proud of their names that they strive to perpetuate them at any cost.
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Most people don’t remember names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. I still struggle with this problem. I am conversing with someone, the person tells me his/her name and by the end of the conversation I have already forgotten the person’s name. Obviously I would be too embarrassed to ask them again after they had just told me 5 minutes ago. In a bid to cover up this bad habit, when I see the person next time, I use greetings like “hey darling, hey dearie, hey hun” for a lady or “sup boss, hey bro, chairman” for a guy. Many of us do this but I am telling you that it is a bad habit, take the extra pains in making sure you memorize that person’s name. If you have to repeat the name several time during the conversation or write the name down in a sheet of paper then be my guest but please never forget someone’s name again.
We should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing with and nobody else. The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others. The information we are imparting or the request we are making takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual. From a waitress to the senior executive, the name will work magic as we deal with others.
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie